Pam Murphy, widow of actor Audie Murphy, was veterans’ friend and advocate
April 16, 2010 posted by Robert Rosebrock · 15 Comments
Pam Murphy, the widow of Audie Murphy, was involved in the Sepulveda VA hospital and care center over the course of 35 years, treating every veteran who visited the facility as if they were a VIP. Pam Murphy died last week at the age of 90
Any soldier or Marine who walked into the Sepulveda VA hospital and care center in the last 35 years got the VIP treatment from Pam Murphy.
The widow of Audie Murphy – the most decorated soldier in World War II – would walk the hallways with her clipboard in hand making sure her boys got to see a specialist or doctor — STAT. If they didn’t, watch out.
Her boys weren’t Medal of Honor recipients or movie stars like Audie, but that didn’t matter to Pam. They had served their country. That was good enough for her.
She never called a veteran by his first name. It was always “Mister.” Respect came with the job.
“Nobody could cut through VA red tape faster than Mrs. Murphy,” said veteran Stephen Sherman, speaking for thousands of veterans she befriended over the years.
“Many times I watched her march a veteran who had been waiting more than an hour right into the doctor’s office. She was even reprimanded a few times, but it didn’t matter to Mrs. Murphy.
“Only her boys mattered. She was our angel.”
Last week, Sepulveda VA’s angel for the last 35 years died peacefully in her sleep at age 90.
“She was in bed watching the Laker game, took one last breath, and that was it,” said Diane Ruiz, who also worked at the VA and cared for Pam in the last years of her life in her Canoga Park apartment.
It was the same apartment Pam moved into soon after Audie died in a plane crash on Memorial Day weekend in 1971.
Audie Murphy died broke, squandering million of dollars on gambling, bad investments, and yes, other women.
“Even with the adultery and desertion at the end, he always remained my hero,” Pam told me.
She went from a comfortable ranch-style home in Van Nuys where she raised two sons to a small apartment – taking a clerk’s job at the nearby VA to support herself and start paying off her faded movie star husband’s debts.
At first, no one knew who she was. Soon, though, word spread through the VA that the nice woman with the clipboard was Audie Murphy’s widow.
It was like saying Patton had just walked in the front door. Men with tears in their eyes walked up to her and gave her a hug. “Thank you,” they said, over and over.
The first couple of years, I think the hugs were more for Audie’s memory as a war hero. The last 30 years, they were for Pam.
She hated the spotlight. One year I asked her to be the focus of a Veteran’s Day column for all the work she had done. Pam just shook her head no.
“Honor them, not me,” she said, pointing to a group of veterans down the hallway. “They’re the ones who deserve it.”
The vets disagreed. Mrs. Murphy deserved the accolades, they said.
Incredibly, in 2002, Pam’s job was going to be eliminated in budget cuts. She was considered “excess staff.”
“I don’t think helping cut down on veterans’ complaints and showing them the respect they deserve, should be considered excess staff,” she told me.
Neither did the veterans. They went ballistic, holding a rally for her outside the VA gates.
Pretty soon, word came down from the top of the VA. Pam Murphy was no longer considered “excess staff.” She remained working full time at the VA until 2007 when she was 87.
“The last time she was here was a couple of years ago for the conference we had for homeless veterans,” said Becky James, coordinator of the VA’s Veterans History Project.
Pam wanted to see if there was anything she could do to help some more of her boys.
Funeral services for Pam Murphy will be held Friday at 2:30 p.m. in the chapel at Forest Lawn, Hollywood Hills, 6300 Forest Lawn Drive, Los Angeles.
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God Bless Mrs. Murphy
A True Patriot Defined
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There is so many days that I just want to kill my self rather than accept that coming back state side was wrong. The first month’s back everyone pats you on the back and congratulates you. We are proud as if they accept us. People make comments under the breath overhearing our conversation with others of the wrongs that they perceive that our actions were on innocent people of a different nation. These comments continue as news broadcasts of the present day children fighting as they do in today’s new war as we did in our war. The VA suicide hotline will harass me over the phone today to induce suicide. The VA administration is a loose cannon that society refuses to investigate when a veteran complains of wrongs. How does a disabled Veteran get the facts out if the editors across the USA censor our opinion letters to protect the character of those leaders in charge? Patriots Day is a day when our children should write and learn of the fabric that makes a US Military veteran because these are the women and men that earn the title A True Patriot. Our US Military give to keep your life free and safe.
My letters are so numerous that it becomes a daily routine to ignore or smile in disgust that such a person can be allowed to exist as our leaders read them. Public opinion is basically society’s trust that the news media covers and exposes wrongs in government protecting its reader’s rights from violation. The news media will harm the character of a disabled veteran with out thought because we are the no-bodies that should never have come back. Discussing true facts that the public is sheltered from because of the harmful power that these words pose. Truth, honesty and ethics have taken a back seat to greed and power as our system of government fades as the True Patriots are forgotten and degraded as the years pass. You will cherish those new ones coming back from today’s wars. Soon as the Patriot’s Day celebrations pass by for these, there ability to survive will be diminished for the next as the cycle of True Patriots continues. The superficial, short term gratitude that the human beings called True Patriots living in this society get is over whelmed and mocked by the disgraceful disregard society inflicts as the years pass. Eighty-seven Percent of you will never serve in our military but will celebrate Patriots Day cherishing publicly those that did while your minds hesitate on remembering the disgust so casually expressed of the atrocities that you innocently described to others over the years. The Veteran standing near absorbs the guilt so society will never know that one of those uncivilized monsters is remaindered by your words that we returned to a place that does not want us. A 100% disabled Veteran’s medical care is stopped and the news media and public accept this, as it is no one they know. The 100% disabled veteran is taken by ambulance to a local hospital for emergency medical only to be ignored by the VA the next day. The news media censors the facts as they do the numerous letters of government wrongs to protect the character of our leaders image.
We the US Military Veteran ask nothing except to have the same Constitutional rights of all those that never served. This is an opinion letter from a human being that earned the title True Patriot.
Peter Macdonald Sgt USMC Semper fi
Semper Fi Sgt….
Please send your comment to vetspeak.org It is a must read for all Veterans, their families and widows….We want to hear from all Vets concerned with these ISSUES you speak of….Sempeer Fi, Joe (Marine,now a) Citizen
Hi,
I believe what you say to be true and, sadly, it is not just your story and the thousands like it dealing with the VA and those to whom you have returned. It is endemic in nearly all paths that those who never went away follow with so many things which go , seemingly, unnoticed or at least unaddressed. It is a systemic breakdown which results in more and more so disgusted and discouraged that they finally drop out of trying to do anything about it.
My prayers are with you and those who fight this and I hope for blessings for you and relief or, the very least, understanding and comprehension from those who should be standing shoulder to shoulder in the effort to turn this around.
I listen to “supposed” ‘patriots’ who rant and rave everyday with no effort to change things, just speaking about things and doing nothing to research and put time or money into those who are trying to effect changes. I ask them why don’t they go to wherein the troops who are returning here to this land and shak their hands in wselcome and say to them the truth; that while they were away fighting for what they thought was our freedom, we wer busy paying no attention while it was being given away.
There are those who know what you say and do try to change things but not nearly enough. I hope that this reply from a civilian is okay as I am with you in what you are saying.
God bless all of you,
Michele
She is a class act. I doubt if she would continence any bad mouthing of C-in-C, but I doubt if he(C-in-C) has any idea who Lt. Murphy was and the contributions he made and she continued to make.
She’s earned my salute.
Someone needs to go to “Find a Grave” web site and add her name and her information.
She deserves to be listed there with his first wife and Audie. I looked through and did not see her listed anywhere.
I would like to say I enjoyed the article that writer Dennis McCarthy wrote about A Great Lady Has Passed. Pamela Murphy was an Angel to all the Veterans that passed through the veterans hospital. I wish I could have known her or worked with her. To those who did they were very lucky to have had that chance.